3 TIPS FOR WRITING YOUR PRIVATE VOWS | SASKATOON WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHER

As a Saskatoon wedding photographer I have witnessed many weddings, all as unique as the couple who planned it.

Not into openly crying in front of large groups of people?.. I get it. So maybe having a quiet moment with just you and your love while you read your vows and shed some private tears is the best route for you. No one says you have to profess your undying love in font of all your family and friends, if it feels better keep that just between you two.

Honestly cutting down the length of your ceremony never hurts. Sooner for people to get to dancing and for you to slice into that delicious cake! So do what feels right for you!

To make things a bit easier I have complied my 3 top tips for writing your own vows!

Make 3–5 Promises

Make sure that you can keep them, no hyperboles. Avoid saying things like “I will treat you like a king every day of your life”, keep it realistic. For example maybe something like “I promise to respect and love you”. Don’t be afraid to throw in one silly promise like “I promise to always kill the spider in the bathroom”. This will make your partner smile.

Tell a story

Tell the story of when you realized you were absolutely in love. From the first sight or maybe since the first date? As you tell a familiar story you will see your partner relax and be less rattled with nerves! When you’re trying to tell a sweet story from the early days of your relationship, it’s important to set the scene for anyone who wasn’t part of the experience. But if it’s just the two of you? You don’t have to fill in the details. Since you aren’t reading your vows in front of anyone but your fiance, you don’t have to worry about context. Your partner will understand the experiences you shared.

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Allow yourself to get emotional

Some people opt for private vows since they feel uneasy about being emotional in front of a group of people. If this sounds like you, then consider this time with your partner to be your invitation to let it all out by saying vulnerable, difficult and profound promises. Don’t hold back. Your partner will appreciate your honest and heartfelt vows.